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Increase Your Expectations to Get What You Want

November 1, 2009

By Lori Hanson

Ever decided you wanted something…really bad? The difference between whether you got it or not has a lot to do with whether you wished, hoped or expected it to happen. Our mind is a powerful tool yet many people don’t understand the power or how to use it. From the perspective our of conscious mind it seems so subtle. Here’s an example.

Let’s say you decided you want to take a trip to Europe. And initially you think about how nice it would be to go and the places you would like to see. But you don’t have money to travel and your hopes and dreams always end with a sign of “Oh I’ll never be able to go, just forget it.”

But one day you get really inspired. You do research on the internet, you plan out every detail of your trip. You decide what airline you’ll fly, what hotels or bed and breakfasts you’ll stay in. What museums and attractions you’re going to visit and the restaurants where you’ll dine. You make it feel real and you bask in the reality of what it would feel like to be on that trip.

This feels so good that you start to spend time every day thinking about your trip to Europe. Every day you tell yourself a new story about your trip and enjoy the fantasy and feeling of being on the trip. You cut out pictures and put them in a scrapbook and every time you look at the pictures you can feel the feeling of being on this trip. You’re making it real.

After doing this for a few weeks you’re no longer fantasizing about going on the trip you know you’re going to go on the trip because you’ve lived it and you can feel it. You’ve been there, you’ve seen the castles, slept in the  beds, drank the wine and driven in the countryside.  By keeping your focus on enjoying the trip and not worrying about where the money will come from before can say “vacation” you’re on the flight and headed over for the trip you’ve been dreaming of.

Here’s the subtly, as long as you keep your focus on what you want and what makes you feel good when you think about your trip instead of constantly thinking thoughts like, “Why hasn’t it happened yet. I’ll never be able to afford this trip on my salary”, or being resentful or jealous that someone you know just came back from their trip to Europe it will happen.

What  you focus on is what you get, period. Bad or good. What you focus on expands. If you focus is constantly on how you have no money, you’ll continue to have money problems. If you constantly focus on how much you hate your body, you’ll continue to see a body you don’t like, if your focus is constantly on how miserable your relationship is, it won’t get any better. Quite simply, as long as you focus on the problem you’ll continue to attract and see more of the problem.

But when you shift your focus to what you want, or the solution to your problem then you attract and begin to see the object of your desires. Whenever you realize you’re wondering why “it” hasn’t happened yet, or why the problem hasn’t been solved yet just shift your thoughts back to thoughts that make you feel good aka happy.

By using the power of your mindset you’ll soon see how you can expect the things you want in life.

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